How to cope when your life has been turned upside down

Life has a habit of throwing curveballs

How to cope when your life has been turned upside downLife is pretty good at throwing curveballs, but the curveballs that come your way vary in destructiveness and severity. Regardless, it is impossible to escape the impact. It could be the sudden death of a loved one. The crumbling of your marriage or relationship. The financial catastrophe that has ruined your sense of security. And…

Conflict Coach: Can you fix a toxic friendship?

I feel like her unpaid counsellor. She vents on me but never does anything to fix her problems

Conflict Coach: Can you fix a toxic friendship?Faith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith uses her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears regularly.…

Four ways toxic relationships harm you

Work on letting them go. After all, you deserve better

Four ways toxic relationships harm youFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life.  Toxic relationships can be difficult…

Six simple steps to living on your own terms

Too much time spent worrying about what other people do takes away from your life. You lose authenticity

Six simple steps to living on your own termsWhose life is this anyway? We spend way too much time worrying about other people. We want to fit in. We want what the other person has. There are plenty of reasons to toe the line, but is it good for us? Too much time spent worrying about what other people are thinking or doing…

You are what you focus on

Sometimes the biggest upgrade needed to help you see what’s possible is to ruthlessly shift what you’re focusing on most

You are what you focus onWe had a fabulous dinner party last weekend where lively conversations and interesting perceptions were shared about relationships, friendships and new experiences. At the end of the wine, there was some agreement that the biggest obstacle facing most people who find themselves with a bit of a bleak outlook is that they’re inviting in that…

Ready to learn how to be calm under pressure?

And putting a stop to those negative thoughts that seem to be overwhelming you

Ready to learn how to be calm under pressure?It’s been a tough week. I get it. And you’re caught up in a relentless loop of doomsday dwelling. Perhaps feeling that doom-and-gloom mindset has taken up permanent residency. But what if someone told you you could control your thoughts (your brain) and put a stop to those negative thoughts that seem to be overwhelming…

Intimacy requires constant nurturing

And that only happens when there is a deep connection

Intimacy requires constant nurturingFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

How you should respond to a bullying stranger

Even the brightest minds, when enraged, appear scarcely more coherent than a wild animal

How you should respond to a bullying strangerFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life.  Dear Conflict Coach: The other…

How can I be happy with what I have?

Celebrating the small wins in life will make you happy in no time

How can I be happy with what I have?There will always be conversations within our minds that dictate our words and actions and how we perceive the world. The things we tell ourselves have the power to raise us to the greatest heights or plummet us to the deepest depths. It can be argued that there’s nothing so telling regarding our success as…

Five tips to help you unwind when you’re worried

Stop living in the future and getting caught in a world of ‘what if’ and speculation

Five tips to help you unwind when you’re worriedWith so much unrest in the world, it can be challenging to step away from a feeling of being intensely worried that something bad is going to happen to you or those you love. Some days we’d rather not go through it at all – wishing we could pull the covers over our head and…

How to have difficult conversations with your partner

Seven steps to ensuring you have the most productive conversation possible

How to have difficult conversations with your partnerFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Stopping negative self-talk in its tracks

Time to rewrite the script and get moving

Stopping negative self-talk in its tracksYou’re on your way. You’re about to make some serious progress in something that matters deeply to you when suddenly, there it is: A nasty little inner voice telling you all the ways you’re going to fail. The brakes slam on. You're now parked and going nowhere on this particular road to realizing your dreams.…

Listening is the first step to resolving any conflict

A misunderstanding doesn’t have to mean the end of the world

Listening is the first step to resolving any conflictFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. No matter how much you…

How willing are you to stretch your comfort zone?

Fear has the power to hijack our thoughts and behaviours, even when a new path makes sense or is harmless

How willing are you to stretch your comfort zone?I’m often fascinated by how rigidly some folks cling to the familiar, especially when it comes to being asked to do something novel. Not something dangerous – just unfamiliar. In my former career, this came up a lot, with leaders standing up in meetings and asking for “out-of-the-box thinkers.” Then they would point directly at me…

Positive self talk an excellent way to raise your spirit

A positive substitute to negativity and pessimism

Positive self talk an excellent way to raise your spirit“I should stop watching the news.” My husband and I utter this phrase several times a week and have been doing so since late March 2020. Sure, we’re curious what the weather is doing, but the daily bombardment of headlines designed to alarm and provoke us has become something to be avoided. Each headline seems…

Conflict Coach: I’m doing the work and he’s taking all the credit

It’s important not to lose your cool. A public outcry can leave you looking like an angry toddler

Conflict Coach: I’m doing the work and he’s taking all the creditFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Five steps to living a more authentic life

Start by being honest about yourself and being open to change

Five steps to living a more authentic lifeLiving a happy life is everyone’s goal. Who doesn’t want to feel good about themselves? Yet many of us live a life of self-doubt, feeling undeserving or incapable, or wishing we were walking another path. But wishing you were living a different life won’t make it happen. And others (even if they love you) can’t…

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflict

Let go of your expectations of how things are supposed to go

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflictThe conflicts that rear up in our lives most often stem from unrealized expectations. Each of us has a script we follow, an expectation of how things are supposed to go. When our expectations aren’t met, we can be delighted by the change, significantly disappointed or even angered. When we head to a nice restaurant,…

Five strategies to help you get back on top of your game

Our tips to help you quickly overcome your slump

Five strategies to help you get back on top of your gameHave you ever noticed how much more productive you are when you are immersed in activities that sing to you? Me too. But I also realize that waking up and feeling you cannot face another day at your desk happens to all of us. Catch me on a high note and I am captivated, inspired…

How to change your emotional response on command

The ability to change your emotional response is the biggest differentiator between those who do well and those who struggle

How to change your emotional response on commandAre you fed up? Perhaps with politics, taxes, grumpy people or the pandemic? Usually, these feelings pass. But when you get stuck in a swirl of negative emotion, the problems of the world seem to pile on and leave you feeling spent. Perhaps this is what causes normally rational individuals to become aggressive and even…

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and small

Perhaps it’s time to bring back porch swings and actually meet your neighbours

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and smallThere will never be a shortage of situations that put people in conflict with one another. From our strong opinions about vaccinations to the economics that drive decision-making. From differences of opinion about in-laws (and outlaws) to parenting to crime prevention and everything in between. Who owns the problem and how it gets solved are…

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goals

To quote a noted sage: “Do or do not. There is no try”

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goalsIn modern society, we’ve wandered away from the thought of winning. It has become taboo. All focus has been put on ensuring that those who don’t place feel just as special for having contributed. However, this flattening of drive seems to have had some unintended consequences – diminishing confidence and persistence. And if you want…

Let 2022 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitude

Nothing good comes from whining and complaining

Let 2022 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitudeI have a Facebook friend who once posted some insights into a challenging year she was coping with. She talked about how much time she had wasted focusing on events that happened outside her physical control. At the end of a fairly long note, she concluded that being a person who refused to complain about…

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions work

What you focus on increases your chance of success

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions workMost of us have a new year resolution in mind, even if we won’t say it out loud. The trick is to make it stick. We want to accomplish something or make some improvement. Perhaps we want to lose weight, change jobs, stop consuming alcohol – or even find a life mate. One of the main…

Five little tips for surviving the Christmas holidays

Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

If you’re struggling with the holiday season, know that you are not alone: many of us scramble with all the responsibility and the desire to get things done. The perfect gift, the perfect wrapping, the cookies, sending out cards, attending school plays, paying the bills: the list goes on and on. With all this perceived…

Trust yourself to make a leap of (informed) faith

Your skill as a decision-maker depends on your willingness to make a mistake

Trust yourself to make a leap of (informed) faithDecisions, decisions. We face them every day. Big ones, small ones and ones we’re all terrified of getting wrong. Can someone just give us the blueprint guiding us to the right decision every time? Sadly, there’s no fail-safe way to ensure that the decision you make will be the right one every time. So we should just…

Not feeling the holiday magic?

There are no perfect holidays. Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

Not feeling the holiday magic?Not feeling it this season? Started getting stressed as soon as you saw the Christmas decorations go up the day after Halloween? I’m guessing that it’s not because you’re famous for being able to give the Grinch a run for his money. You get by most of the time without people thinking your heart is…

Conflict Coach: How to approach difficult conversations

"My wife and I are snapping at each other constantly. I need it to stop or we need to go our separate ways"

Conflict Coach: How to approach difficult conversationsFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

How to shake off your Christmas stress

Remain calm. You'll make better decisions than those who are stressed

How to shake off your Christmas stressIt’s almost that time of year again – the shops are filling up, along with the roads, and people’s stress levels are increasing. Christmas is a time of tradition. Some people have huge family gatherings with relatives (lockdowns permitting) from all over the place; others prefer a quiet evening – fireplace, wine, blanket and time…

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joy

Christmas is about family and creating warm memories

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joyIt was a cold day – really cold. As I sat in a coffee shop with a cup of tea one Christmas season, preparing to answer a few emails during a break from Christmas shopping, I noticed four shivering teens – opting for fashion instead of warmth. They ordered hot chocolates, then headed to a…
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