Ending a friendship can be painful but is sometimes necessary

Be honest and tell them the friendship no longer serves you. But do more than send a text or email

Ending a friendship can be painful but is sometimes necessaryFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Trust is the foundation for success

Whether it’s a manager having trust in a staff member, employees having trust in their leader or leaders having trust in their decisions

Trust is the foundation for successAs a child, I had a tremendous fear of falling. I would climb a tree and couldn’t trust that the branch wouldn’t break. I climbed cranes, cliffs and buildings, and was always afraid that my footing would slip and I would fall. Perhaps that fear was grounded in the fact that I had already fallen…

How to be a better communicator and ease conflict

When you’re an excellent communicator, people understand you, everything runs more efficiently and you more often get what you want

How to be a better communicator and ease conflictFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

How to be kind even in the worst circumstances – and why it matters

Know what you can control and what you can’t, understand that anger doesn't help and always opt for kindness as the best option

How to be kind even in the worst circumstances – and why it mattersIt might surprise you to hear that being kind isn’t just good for the other person, it’s good for you too! Skeptical? There’s good scientific evidence that living up to the adage of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you is one of the best things you can do for yourself.…

What you need to do after a relationship ends

Start with a firm resolution to pick yourself up, along with several actions to rebuild the damaged parts of your life

What you need to do after a relationship endsFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

How to navigate contentious conversations

It happens when discussions involve politics or COVID-19. It’s as if everyone has a polarizing point of view and I hesitate to speak

How to navigate contentious conversationsFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Five ways to say ‘No’ and why it will make you feel better

If you learn to say ‘No’ to the things you really don’t want to do or that don’t fit your needs, your life will be much richer

Five ways to say ‘No’ and why it will make you feel betterFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Three steps to resolving deep family conflict

‘I had an argument with my sister over three years ago and we haven’t spoken since. I don’t know how to fix what went wrong’

Three steps to resolving deep family conflictFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Canada’s divorce system discriminates against men

Federal Child Support Guidelines biased against men and need to be overhauled

Canada’s divorce system discriminates against menIf Christopher Sarlo is right, Canada’s Federal Child Support Guidelines are wrong. The economics professor at Nipissing University in North Bay, Ont., made an in-depth analysis of the guidelines and found them wanting. A 100-page examination leads him to one conclusion: the guidelines are biased against men and deserve an overhaul. Fights over money are…

How to cope when you work with someone you dislike

Address any fears, let go of the anger and look for the good in the relationship

How to cope when you work with someone you dislikeFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Need help connecting with people? Here’s how

Listening is a lot harder than most of us admit

Need help connecting with people? Here’s howHow often have you uttered the phrase “How are you?” without even bothering to wait for the recipient of the question to respond? The receiver could say, “I just won the lottery!” or “Well, my wife left me, I lost my job, I’m getting evicted from my home and the dog died!” and it’s all…

How to handle an adult bully

A bully has learned that their aggressive tactics grant them a feeling of power or super confidence

How to handle an adult bullyFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the oft-times stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

The trouble with money

We crave, mythologize, demonize and fight wars over money. Why can’t we just treat it with respect and maintain harmony in the home?

The trouble with moneyMy husband and I once got into a mild argument over finances. It started with calculating costs for a trip east with friends to see a football game. It ended with a tally of summer bills and how on earth they would ever get paid. This happens in countless households. Money – or lack of…

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorce

Confidence, direction, соurаgе and reassurance аrе constant companions in your efforts tо mаkе a successful rесоvеrу from divоrсе

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorceDivorce is nothing like it appears on TV or on the Internet. The grieving ebbs and flows as your life changes significantly. Divоrсе rесоvеrу gives rise tо thoughtѕ like, “I nеvеr thought I'd hаvе tо dо this. I'vе never bееn in this predicament bеfоrе. Evеrуthing iѕ nеw and threatening. I feel lоѕt and afraid thingѕ…

Five ways you might be discouraging your staff

Motivated employees are the lifeblood of every great business. Understanding what you can do to motivate your workers is essential

Five ways you might be discouraging your staffIt’s true that people don’t quit a job, they quit a boss. A great boss can change the dynamics of an organization and inspire people to create a culture where work doesn’t feel like a chore. Motivated staff are key to having an operation that’s well functioning and takes care of customers in a way…

What are you avoiding today?

The worst outcome in many cases is much better than not dealing with what we’re avoiding

What are you avoiding today?I caught myself trying to avoid work last week. Part of my job is to make phone calls to prospective clients. As it came closer to the time I had blocked out to make the calls, I found myself getting distracted. I went through my emails, clicked on links, looked at social media and even…

The smartest things ever said about sports

Despite what Vince Lombardi said, if winning’s the only thing in sports, you’re going to be miserable a lot of the time

The smartest things ever said about sportsFrom time to time while flipping through a magazine or surfing the Internet, you’ll run across a list of Best Sports Quotes. These lists can be somewhat entertaining, as the quotes run the gamut from inspiring to funny. While glancing at one of these lists recently, I saw the Vince Lombardi quote that always seems…

Sex is okay, just don’t sing

Sex advice for pandemic prevention makes as much sense as implementing a security system while leaving the front door open

Sex is okay, just don’t singThe B.C. Centre for Disease Control threw logic out the window with its “COVID-19 and Sex” advice. The document reveals contradiction, ignorance and hypocrisy. “If you’re feeling fine and have no symptoms of COVID-19, you can still have sex. If you’re feeling sick, skip sex,” it says. Thanks. “Not tonight, I have a headache,” is…

Three questions to ask when you’ve been disrespected

Is it disrespect, miscommunication or misaligned values that are harming your business relationships?

Three questions to ask when you’ve been disrespected“My client doesn’t respect me!” my colleague vented through the phone. It’s a feeling every entrepreneur has felt at one point or another in their career. It’s one I certainly empathize with. As I listened, it became clear that the client wasn’t being disrespectful. The two parties simply had disconnection in their communication styles, coupled…

The power of mentors in business and life

Mentors come in all shapes and sizes, and in all aspects of our lives. It’s only when they leave us that we truly realize their lasting influence

The power of mentors in business and life“Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life. I don’t care what you do for a living – if you do it well, I’m sure there was someone cheering you on or showing the way. A mentor.” – Denzel Washington In the last couple…

Take the time to walk a mile in my shoes

Our reactions to perceptions that aren’t aligned with our own firmly-held beliefs often lead to misunderstandings and conflict

Take the time to walk a mile in my shoesWe learn early that not everyone shares our point of view. To understand a situation, we need to consider varying perspectives. There’s no inarguable truth for all situations. We build understanding from inviting multiple perspectives. Consider your emotional reaction to the idea of honesty in politics, or where to spend critical health care or education…

Too much tech use can cut into couple time, study shows

Even small digital distractions can add up to dissatisfaction with romantic relationships, say researchers

Too much tech use can cut into couple time, study showsSneaking peeks at your phone or doodling on your tablet, even just a little bit, may hurt your couple time, according to a new collaborative study involving the University of Alberta. Although technology use is common during shared time, on days when people and their romantic partners used it more feelings about leisure time and…

Study reveals insights into how we change as we age

Landmark 35-year research project yields surprising findings about happiness, relationships, generational differences and more

Study reveals insights into how we change as we ageIn recent years, there has been a growing interest in the differences between generations and the sociological forces defining their worldviews and behaviour. Stereotypes abound: the silent generation is inflexibly conventional, the baby boomers are narcissistic, generation X members are lazy. And millennials just take too long to grow up. But few of these assumptions…

Fight, flee or learn to manage stress

It may be that the impact stress has on our health has less to do with its cause and more to do with how we think about it

Fight, flee or learn to manage stressSocial science seems to have found the secret to a long and happy life. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal tells us, “Go after what creates meaning in your life and then trust yourself to handle the stress that follows.” In recent years, however, we’ve looked at stress as our enemy, seeking instead to live in complete ease.…

A new social media approach: thoughtful, informed

Social media has become immersive entertainment. But it’s also ruthless and stressful for many people

A new social media approach: thoughtful, informedEach of us has an agenda (however fleeting) to influence people around us. We want them to agree with our perspective, our angst even. Sometimes we succeed in gaining momentum with a group – raising dissenting voices into a fevered pitch that results in others (the accidental audience members) being hooked into the current melee.…

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty payback

We’re often reluctant to establish a line when dealing with others because we don’t want to be seen as difficult. So instead we stew in our anger and resentment

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty paybackHave you ever lived near or worked with someone who seemed to have a problem respecting personal space? About 15 years ago, a neighbour decided he wanted to build a garage. There was a tree on his property line that he didn’t want to take down, so he figured he would just appropriate needed space…

Our relationship with our stuff is mutual, says U of A researcher

Study of fashion blogger’s account of wearing the same dress every day for a year shows how much we depend on possessions

Our relationship with our stuff is mutual, says U of A researcherWhen you exclaim “I love that!” about a favourite possession, do you really mean it? A University of Alberta study based on a fashion blog is asking people to think more deeply about what they own – and whether they really need to buy more. A year of reflections in Frock Around the Clock, a blog about…

How working from home could be bad for your career

Working from home could enhance your work-life balance, but negatively impact your development and career trajectory

How working from home could be bad for your careerAs we approach three months working in pandemic lockdown, many organizations are toying with the idea of making remote work a more permanent fixture. The potential advantages are obvious: financial savings from reduced office space, reduced commuting time for employees, the ability to hire from outside the region. For many organizations, the experiment with virtual…

What has all this togetherness done to your relationship?

Besides creating an economic crisis, COVID-19 is bringing conflict into some homes. Rate (and improve) your relationship

What has all this togetherness done to your relationship?Not all of us are living happily ever after. Are you surprised? I didn’t think so! If absence makes the heart grow fonder, the opposite might also be true about too much time spent together in close quarters. A former colleague recently told me that call volumes for domestic disputes are on the rise. This…
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